Going in Grace

In this episode, we’re diving into the life of Mordecai—a man whose quiet strength and unwavering faith helped save a nation. You may know Mordecai as Esther’s cousin and guardian, but his story is more than just a supporting role. It’s a masterclass in integrity, courage, and divine positioning. So grab your coffee, your Bible, or just a quiet moment—and let’s unpack the lessons we can learn from this remarkable man.

Mordecai first appears in Esther 2:5–7, where we learn he raised Esther after her parents died. He wasn’t a king, prophet, or priest—just a faithful guardian doing what was right. Verses 7 tells us “And Mordecai had brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle’s daughter, for she had neither father nor mother. The young woman was lovely and beautiful. When her father and mother died, Mordecai took her as his own daughter.”

Mordecai in his actions towards his cousin teaches us that faithfulness doesn’t always come with applause. Most people don’t even pause to ask you if you need anything when you pitch in to take care of a loved one. In our careers, ministries, or families, we may be called on to serve in meaningful ways that largely go unnoticed. But Mordecai reminds us that God honors quiet obedience. Whether you're mentoring a teen, supporting a colleague, raising a grandchild or serving behind the scenes—your faithfulness matters.

Lesson 1 from the life of Mordecai is that God sees our faithfulness and will reward it even if no one else does. Proverbs 3:3-4 ESV tells us “Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man.”

In Esther 3:2-5 we learn more about Mordecai when he refuses to bow to Haman, a powerful official. It reads “And all the king’s servants who were within the king’s gate bowed and paid homage to Haman, for so the king had commanded concerning him. But Mordecai would not bow or pay homage. Then the king’s servants who were within the king’s gate said to Mordecai, “Why do you transgress the king’s command?” Now it happened, when they spoke to him daily and he would not listen to them, that they told it to Haman, to see whether Mordecai’s words would stand; for Mordecai had told them that he was a Jew. When Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow or pay him homage, Haman was filled with wrath.”

Mordecai wasn’t just defiant—he operated from a place of conviction. Mordecai knew bowing to pay homage to Haman would compromise his faith. Homage is not just a sign of respect, it is worship. Many leaders that practiced pagan religions went so far as to require worship, which is what Haman was doing. Mordecai knew that this was unacceptable as a believer in the one true God. In Matthew 4:10 Jesus says “…Away with you, Satan! For it is written, ‘You shall worship the Lord your God, and Him only you shall serve.’ ” Here we learn our second lesson from Mordecai. In today’s culture, standing for truth can feel isolating. Whether it’s in the workplace, social media, or even among friends, we’re often pressured to conform. Mordecai’s courage reminds us that integrity sometimes means standing alone.

Later in Mordecai’s story we learn that he uncovered a plot to assassinate the king and reported it. This occurs in (Esther 2:21–23). Later, when he discovers Haman’s plot to kill all of the Jews he guides Esther in how to approach the king wisely. Esther 4:1 & 8 says “When Mordecai learned all that had happened, he tore his clothes and put on sackcloth and ashes, and went out into the midst of the city. He cried out with a loud and bitter cry.” “He also gave him a copy of the written decree for their destruction, which was given at Shushan, that he might show it to Esther and explain it to her, and that he might command her to go in to the king to make supplication to him and plead before him for her people.” When Esther voices her fear, knowing that appearing before the king uninvited could result in death, Mordecai steadies her and reminds her to trust in God, for perhaps the very reason she became queen was for this moment.

Esther 4:13-14 “And Mordecai told them to answer Esther: “Do not think in your heart that you will escape in the king’s palace any more than all the other Jews. For if you remain completely silent at this time, relief and deliverance will arise for the Jews from another place, but you and your father’s house will perish. Yet who knows whether you have come to the kingdom for such a time as this?” Our third lesson from the life of Mordecai is that Wisdom isn’t just knowing what to do—it’s knowing when and how. Mordecai didn’t rush into action; he used discernment and strategy. In leadership, parenting, or ministry, we need both courage and tact.

Even after saving the king, Mordecai wasn’t immediately rewarded. It wasn’t until Esther 6 that the king honored him. Esther 6:3 - “Then the king said, “What honor or dignity has been bestowed on Mordecai for this?” And the king’s servants who attended him said, “Nothing has been done for him.” Some of us, if we saved a king’s life would be furious to not receive any acknowledgement for it. Mordecai on the other hand did what was right no matter the reward. I imagine that he put it all in God’s hands. If he was meant to be rewarded, he would be, eventually. Lesson four from the life of Mordecai is to put things in God’s hands and leave them there. We live in a “now” culture—instant likes, instant results. But Mordecai’s story teaches us that God’s timing is perfect. Delayed recognition doesn’t mean forgotten purpose.

After Haman’s downfall, Mordecai was promoted to second in command. Esther 10:3 says:
“For Mordecai the Jew was second to King Ahasuerus, and was great among the Jews and well received by the multitude of his brethren, seeking the good of his people and speaking peace to all his countrymen.” Mordecai didn’t use power for personal gain—he used it to serve. He also wasn’t vengeful, going after anyone who had ever been a problem in the past. No, he sought the good of his people and spoke peace to all men.

This is our fifth and final lesson. Leadership isn’t about titles—it’s about stewardship. It’s about an opportunity to serve and be a blessing, not to act out of past hurts and impure motives. When God elevates you and gives you position and power, remember it’s a time to make God shine, not ourselves. Whether you’re leading a team, a Bible study, or a family, Mordecai shows us that influence should be rooted in humility and service.

Mordecai is one of my favorite bible characters. His story teaches me so much. I invite you to reflect on his life and consider the following questions for your own life:

• Ask yourself: Where am I called to be faithful, even if no one sees?
• Where do I need to stand firm, even if it costs me popularity or comfort?
• Am I seeking God’s wisdom before making decisions, or just reacting?
• Can I trust God’s timing, even when I feel overlooked?
• Am I using my influence to uplift others, or to elevate myself?
• Do I have hurts the Lord needs to heal so that I don’t lead from a place of woundedness and hurt people?

Mordecai’s life is a quiet symphony of faith, courage, and wisdom. He didn’t seek the spotlight, but he stood firm in the light of God’s truth. As a result, the spotlight and God’s favor found him. Whether you’re in a palace or a cubicle, raising a child or leading a ministry—remember Mordecai. Stand tall. Stay faithful. And trust that God is working behind the scenes.

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